There’s a rumor swirling in the atmosphere that phone sex is reserved for long-distance relationships. Ok, I’ll admit. It’s half true. I mean, phone sex is amazing for LDRs because they add intimacy to a situation which might be devoid of it entirely. Phone sex is really powerful and can save an LDR from collapsing in on itself. Why? Well, relationships require intimacy… it’s as simple as that. And when you are away from your partner for a long period of time, and not using the phone to have sex, it can be really easy for that relationship to turn into a platonic friendship. What makes that statement, about phone sex being exclusively for LDR couples, a rumor is that it’s really something that could be beneficial to everyone. Besides, distance doesn’t have to be measured in miles. You can be sleeping right next to your partner every single night and feel that distance.
When couples go through a dry sexual patch or feel that the electric sexy energy they once had is starting to die, it’s time to do something about it. Sure, you could go to counseling or try having a threesome or something, but phone sex is a good option too. Phone sex has so many benefits that people don’t always see at first. Whenever I have a friend that’s going through a rough patch with her boyfriend, I always recommend that they try phone sex to help them get their relationship back on track. I told this to a girlfriend the other day, and she scoffed. “But we live together!” was her response to me. Ok fair. What are you going to do, go into the living room call each other, and masturbate? Well, you could do that. But I told her that she’d be better off using phone sex as a pregame to the real thing, using it when you go on a trip, or having phone sex when you two happen to be away for each other (such as for a business trip). Pregaming the real thing would be like using it on the car drive home, sending naughty voicemails during a lunch break, or speaking in sexy code on the phone while one of you is at the grocery store. It’s the appetizer used to wet your palate before you get home and jump each other’s bones!
Not sure if phone sex would work in your non-LDR relationship? Think again! Here are some of the ways phone sex can benefit you, even if you aren’t physically separated by miles of distance.
Phone Sex Strengthens Communication
Sometimes the spark between two people falls flat because they don’t know how to communicate inside or outside of their bed-chambers. I always say that communication is the road to good sex. A lack of communication skills can cause so much tension… and not the good kind. Phone sex is telling your partner explicitly what you want and how you want it. It’s also about asking your partner about their needs and desires. Can you even think of a better exercise in communication than that? By doing this in a sexual context, you not only advance your communicative skills, but you also brush up on speaking to each other in ways that turn you both on. Phone sex is like taking a class in talking to each other. The only way to fail is to not try it at all!
It reveals new fantasies
Even the closest of partners can fear revealing their true fantasies to each other. But if you can’t tell your partner, then who can you tell? Phone sex provides a unique opportunity to lay it all out there. It’s not like you are walking into the living room and saying, “Babe, I would love it if you tied me up in Shibari ropes and spanked me really hard with a paddle.” In the wrong context, it’s easy to see how that might be met with some unintentional judgment. Phone sex is literally talking about sex over the phone. Use it as a way to express your repressed sexual desires. And also, use it to clue yourself into things your partner loves. What do they ask you for on phone sex? Knowledge is power, and phone sex is like a secret window into the sexual universe between you and your partner. Take advantage!
Adds to the hotness
Sometimes partners just need to experience something new and not overdone in their sex lives! Phone sex is a safe, cost-effective, and nice way to add some flavor to that bland sex cake that has become your life. I literally can’t think of a way that is safer. Phone sex doesn’t require any fancy toys, pain, or third party members. It’s just you and your partner making that sex virtual. You are forcing each other out of your shells in a new sexual way. This adventure that you are embarking on together can only serve you. Because even if the phone sex is meh… it’s something you tried together!
Ok, so I just gave you three amazing reasons to try phone sex with your partner, even though you aren’t LDR. Remember, you don’t have to be away from each other for it to work. You can use phone sex as your first course to your sex meal. So what are you waiting for? Call that partner of yours and get on the steamy train to sex town! Choo choo!
(Related: How To Bring Phone Sex Up To Your Partner)