Why Pillow Talk Is Important For Phone Sex

As a phone sex operator, I don’t get the luxury of having pillow talk with most of my clients. It’s rare that someone wants to chat with me after they’ve already had their fun… especially when they are paying by the minute. That is alright, and because we don’t have much of an emotional bond outside of the call itself, there’s not a gigantic plus to having a sweet conversation after an orgasm has already been reached. Once that happens, my service has been provided and my job is over. But when we discuss phone sex in a more common sense, like the kind had between two people in relationships, pillow talk and aftercare are two very important elements of phone sex that sometimes are discarded. As a professional, I am here to tell you that tossing the pillow talk to the side, like a discarded piece of paper, is not a good idea. You need to savor those moments after phone sex with your partner. Not only does it tie up any loose ends created during the phone sex call, but it also is beneficial to your bond with your partner outside of phone sex.

What is pillow talk?

Pillow talk got its name because it’s usually had after sex, when your head is against the pillow and you are feeling emotional. Pillow talk is not to be confused with dirty talk, which is expressed during phone sex. In this context, pillow talk is the conversation had once the phone sex has run its course. Either both partners have reached an orgasm and the phone sex is over, or the dirty talk has died down and taken on a more vulnerable form. This is not to say that phone sex between partners isn’t vulnerable. It most certainly is. It’s just actually not as intimate and emotional as pillow talk.

 

Why is it important?

When you have conversations after sexual encounters in person, you tend to dive into more revealing topics. You discuss why you and your partner are special to one another. You might talk about the future, why you love each other, and how great the sex was. It’s easy to do and feel necessary as you are touching naked and lying next to each other. While you can’t perform arm tickles on one another after phone sex, the conversations had are just as important and serve the relationship in many ways. Here are just a few of the reasons why post-phone sex pillow talk is so paramount.

 

It makes the phone sex more meaningful

Have you ever had sex with someone who just jumped out of bed and left immediately after? It doesn’t really make you feel special, does it? Talking for a few minutes after phone sex completes the moment, giving it even more meaning than it had before. It helps to bring the adventure you just had with your significant other to a nice little close, making you feel more secure about the risk you just took in having it. All sexual experiences are an emotional risk, and pillow talk puts any insecurities about that experience to rest.

 

It makes future phone sex better

Maybe the phone sex wasn’t all that great, or maybe you were just testing it out for the first time. Either way, phone sex is usually a pretty bumpy ride for those who aren’t doing it all the time or as their day job (like me). If you talk about the bumps in road that you had while on the call, you can help alleviate or avoid them in the future. Talk about what you did like too, so that you and your partner remember to keep the great thing and toss the aspects that didn’t work.

 

It keeps phone sex a safe experience 

Phone sex isn’t for everyone. Some people feel pressured to have it in order to please their partners. This might sound like something you’d do. It might also be something your partner is doing and you don’t even know it! Post-phone sex chats can help you gauge how your partner really feels about having it in the first place. It also gives you an opportunity to speak up if you never want to do it again. Use this time to stay on the same page as your partner in terms of whether this is right for the both of you.

 

It enhances communication skills

Phone sex itself enhances communication skills, both sexual and nonsexual. So does pillow talk! After you have an orgasm, you tend to feel a little emotional. Some people even describe the feeling as euphoric or mushy. You are more in tune and in touch with your truest emotions. What better time is there to talk from the heart to the person you have feelings for?

 

It’s an intimate moment unto itself

Maybe the phone sex was a really special time for you and your girlfriend or boyfriend. But why not have even more spectacular moments? Don’t waste an otherwise special blip in time because you forget to talk after the phone sex. The pillow talk is a bonding experience for you both, where feelings are exchanged and shared over the phone. These are times that you will cherish as you grow in your relationship. Not having pillow talk after phone sex is really a wasted opportunity to get even deeper with and closer to your partner.