If you are in a long-distance relationship, you know that it can sometimes come with quite a bit of frustration. This frustration usually isn’t driven by the person you are seeing, but rather the distance itself. If you’re in an LDR, there’s a chance that the person you are seeing is really amazing. Why else would you stick around for someone you can’t see on a daily basis? In a lot of ways, it’s a pretty beautiful example of commitment to a significant other. However, that distance can be a challenge. It’s obviously a physical challenge, but it’s also an emotional challenge and an intimacy challenge. Phone sex is an amazing way for a couple in this position to reconnect those dots that might have gotten scattered or crossed through the wires while you and your partner have been apart. That’s the short reason as to why phone sex is important for LDRs. But, we need to break it down because it’s not a simple solution. For it to really help your LDR, you need to know why it would help in the first place.
It restores intimacy
Clearly, intimacy is going to be hard to accomplish well in an LDR, but not impossible. Adding phone sex is a way to bring back that sexual spark into the relationship and keep it hot. Sex is a huge part of what pushes a relationship beyond just friendship. For that reason alone, it’s paramount in successful relationships. Phone sex is a way to keep that alive in relationships with miles and miles of distance. Those faint moans heard over the phone, or those sexy images seen during a video phone sex session are things that you know are meant for your partner and you alone, which is what makes relationship-based intimacy so special in the first place.
It spices things up in new ways
If you’ve never masturbated in front of a partner before, phone sex is going to add an entirely new dimension of spice to your sex life. Phone sex requires some pretty kinky things that sometimes even the closest of couples don’t even think to try. It adds a level of voyeurism into the relationship, which is totally sexy, and explores potentially new sexual fantasies. Also, if you invest in some Bluetooth sex toys, it will give you a chance to experience a new way to pleasure or gain pleasure from your partner.
It keeps your partner on your mind and you on his/hers
Keeping that sexual spark alive is not something that exists only in the moments of phone sex. In fact, these feelings linger for long after the phone sex call itself, creating intimate moments in the relationship that you might not even know are happening. Additionally, if you send nudes during phone sex, there’s a visual element added to the yearning and longing. Keeping each other in your respective minds is a way to keep the relationship strong, growing, and strongly present in your physically distant lives.
It strengthens communication skills
Phone sex doesn’t come naturally to everyone at first, and that’s fine! Getting good at having phone sex is going to require you and your partner to come together as a team. It’s going to require you to ask questions, be completely honest, and reveal parts of yourself that you’ve maybe never thought about revealing. Enhancing your communication skills is so important for people in LDRs. Especially for people who are either shy or might have trouble communicating in the first place.
It adds an element of planning
With LDRs, especially for couples in different time zones, planning times to talk is everything. When it comes to a casual conversation, it can be easy to drop the ball or for some distraction to get in the way. With phone sex, on the other hand, the planning usually stays pretty firm. This is because you’ll likely plan to have phone sex at night after the day is done. And, it will satisfy a sexual urge that’s likely pretty strong at this point in your relationship. Having these planned sessions will help keep your relationship feeling regular and add some structure to it!
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