Being a phone sex operator means that I get to hear about a lot of fantasies… but they mainly all come from men! I hear about what men like, what gets them hot, and what turns them on pretty much on a daily basis. I get the occasional female caller, but most of my own understanding of female fantasies has come from my own head. What do I like? What am I into? As someone who is heavily involved in sex work, I have taken it upon myself to learn more about female sexuality and what turns women on. Women are just as sexual as men – more so some would say. So, what are ladies into?
Learning about what women like in bed will make you a better phone sex performer too. Familiarity with these fantasies will help you get a woman off if you are having phone sex with your partner.
Lesbian
Now, if the woman is a lesbian, this idea of getting it on with another woman isn’t a fantasy. It’s just her life. But a lot of straight women fantasize about what it would be like to get naughty with another woman. Does this make them not straight? It’s complicated and not up for anyone to define anyone else’s sexuality. Making this fantasy work for phone sex means you will have to describe what a woman would do to your female partner. Over the phone, you can pretend that you are watching a woman make love to your female partner. Describe what she’d do to your female partner and how it would go down. Roleplaying lesbian phone sex will probably make for a really hot experience for you as well as her.
Being Dominated
This one fits in the BDSM realm a bit. Women frequently love to be dominated in bed. They like to be overpowered. This lack of control provides them permission to totally let go, which is why they think it’s so hot! Why do you think 50 Shades became such a popular franchise among women? It shouldn’t imply that a woman is fragile or dominated in real life. Quite the opposite actually! These women want to lose control. Via the telephone, you can take charge of the conversation as you would a bedroom situation. To play this fantasy out while having phone sex, make sure to dominate the situation. Set the scene and direct it… from start to finish!
In Public
Lots of ladies are closeted exhibitionists, which means they fantasize about doing the nasty in really public places. The idea that you could be caught at any moment is really sexy and a huge turn-on for tons of women. If you have a partner who enjoys this idea, she might also enjoy getting sexts at ‘inappropriate’ times (like at the office). Always ask if it’s her cup of tea before just sending something naughty! While having phone sex, you can set up your phone sex scene in a public spot, or even attempt to have phone sex while you both are in a public setting! Can you get it on over the phone while you are in the grocery line? There’s only one real way to find out!
Orgies
Women fantasize about being in the center of an orgy. They want to feel as if they are receiving all the attention from all angles. If you are trying to fulfill this fantasy while having phone sex, you can try inventing a character. Adding imagined characters to a role-play scenario over the phone can get complicated and might take practice, but the results are really rewarding when done right.
Romantic Sex
This should come at no surprise, but women are emotional lovers – even if they are just fucking for fun. They often need to feel emotional or romantic feelings towards the person in the moment for them to get off. This is not true of all women (none of these fantasies apply to everyone), but it’s common. Romantic fantasies tend to dwell in the mind of a woman. Maybe it’s a fantasy about making love or recreating a sensual scene from a movie that turns her on! Romantic is a pretty broad way to describe something but it always refers to something that hits on an emotional level.
Now that you know what many women are into, you can use this to inform your own sexual experiences. From the phone to the bedroom, pleasing a woman is in your hands. You might need practice or to do a little research, but anyone can get there if they try hard enough. Ask your female partner what her fantasies are and try to expand upon them. Being attentive to women in sexual situations is always a plus!
(Related: Common Phone Sex Fantasies)