When you call me or any of my fellow phone sex operator friends, we know that you’re calling because you are horny. You don’t have a lot on your mind except an orgasm. That’s cool with me and it’s why I have a job – so I thank you! But people tend to forget that phone sex operators are people too. We have our own lives and we can think for ourselves. I think this is an important topic because I find a lot of people who gasp at the work I do without considering the humanity behind being a phone sex operator or really a sex worker in general. To set the record straight and give you a look behind the PSO curtain, I’ve written down some things that I think people should know about phone sex operators.
They are professionals
Phone sex operators engage in phone sex for a ton of different reasons. Some find it fun, some find it empowering, some love the art of dirty talk. What they all have in common is this: They need to pay their bills. It’s a professional and kosher way to make that cash on their own time. Phone sex operators are professional people! They work anywhere from 4-8 hours per shift. It can feel like a real 9-5 job, but phone sex operators know that the most saturated time for business happens once the sun goes down. The life of a phone sex operator might appear hyper sexual or naughty. At times, it can be. But most sex operators live normal lives and treat phone sex operating as a way to make money. They are dedicated to bettering their craft every day. Some even have multiple jobs and children… and they still are great at getting you off. At the end of the day, sex work is work.
They have their own fantasies
Phone sex operators are sexual chameleons, conforming to the fantasy identified by the client and putting the most energy they can muster into making it as real as possible. That’s not easy to do over the phone. There are props involved sometimes and a hint of acting. They might be so good that they have you believing that they are into anything and everything. Not all phone sex operators like all the fantasies they help their customers with. Like any regular person, they have their own kinks that they like to get off too. They also might have significant others who either know or don’t know about their professional phone sex life. The point is that just because someone is a phone sex operator, it doesn’t mean that they are down for anything in their sex lives outside of work. Many of them are actually into very romantic, intimate, and even vanilla sex.
They aren’t always turned on
This goes for most sex workers I meet. People assume that we are always thinking about sex and always turned on. This just isn’t true. I am not a sex addict, but I am in the business of sex. I am not always turned on but I know how to “turn it on” for the job, if that makes sense. I can get myself to the point of sounding turned on for the benefit of the client even if I’m not totally feeling it myself. That’s my job, I provide that service and I will make you happy about spending your money and time with me. That being said, I am not ready to jump someone’s bones at all times.
They don’t judge you
It bums me out to know that people out there are afraid of calling phone sex lines. They are intimidated by the operators, who ooze sexuality, and fear judgement from their friends and also the operators themselves. I can’t speak to what your friends would say about calling a phone sex line, but I can tell you that a phone sex operator is not judging you by your request or the way you sound on the phone. We know that these moments are intimate and private, which is why we treat them as such. Clients give us their most vulnerable and sensitive moments where they explore fantasies that people in their regular lives haven’t let them explore. Phone sex operators don’t sit around and dish about their clients or find any fantasy weird or off the cuff. A phone sex operator has heard it all before, is a pro at the job, and will make you feel as comfortable and turned on as possible. We are an open-minded group.
They are likely calling from their own home
From cheesy 90s movies, the world has an image of phone sex operators working at a call center. This does happen sometimes, but rarely. Operators are calling from the comfort of their own homes most of the time. They are probably calling on a landline or a secure cell phone other than their main cell, but it’s usually in their own house on their own terms.