There are people out there who have adopted the philosophy that winning or making it to the finish line is the point of the race itself. As someone who has been in the sex industry for some time now, I’d have to say that I greatly disagree. Let’s talk about foreplay…
Perhaps it’s my female perspective coming into play here. I am a woman, so I know that it takes me longer to have an orgasm than it might take a man. I need the arousal to get my mind into full sexual activation. Conversely, a man can simply picture boobs and bam… he’s got an erection. The ‘race’ then seems a lot shorter for men, but we’re playing together, so how is that fair? This is not to imply that men don’t like foreplay too. Foreplay makes sex better for everyone. Plus, if you want hot girls to talk to you, you’ve got to know how to play this game.
First, let’s define foreplay…
Ok, so foreplay is everything that you do before you actually have sex. In a sexual context, this could range from making out to getting a little rub action. However, depending on who you talk to, foreplay could extend back way further. To some, foreplay includes the date or conversations leading into the sex. I’m sort of in both camps. I believe that there are different types of foreplay, but to define the word and box it into just one of those two categories would be a mistake. And, I think it’s important to highlight conversation as it pertains to sexual intercourse or climaxing because, well, I am a phone sex operator. But, for the purposes of gaining a true understanding of what foreplay actually means, I’ll give you some examples of it as it’s most commonly known.
Here are some examples of physical foreplay:
- Kissing your partner’s neck
- An OTPHJ (Over the pants handjob!)
- Finger tickles all over the body
- Fingering, stroking, using hands
- Making out
- Running fingers through hair
- Nipple play
- Playing with the boobies
- Spanking
- Oral sexual play
- Teasing
Did any of those words get you aroused? Well, that’s the entire point. And, it also kind of drives the point home that words can be an active part of foreplay itself! In case you are wondering, here are some examples of emotional foreplay. These are things that come even before all of the above and to some, they aren’t considered ‘real foreplay,’ but that’s up for debate. They definitely get you in the mood!
- Going on a date
- Complimenting
- Talking dirty
- Lighting candles
- Putting on sexy candles
- Undressing
- Showing off sexy clothing
- Making innuendos in public
- Sexy texts
- Drawing a bath
- Nude images
- Sexy pics
These things are tantalizing, but they don’t get as straight to the point as the actual words themselves. But, you can see why they might be important to the entire experience as a whole. Some guys would rather bypass all of this foreplay, chalking it up to ‘too much work.’ However, those same guys often get off on a woman getting off. If you want the sex to be really mindblowing, you must incorporate foreplay.
Ok, but what does this have to do with phone sex?!
I’m getting there! Ok, so the principle still applies. If you want mindblowing phone sex, you’ll need to engage in phone sex foreplay. To me, phone sex foreplay begins before you even make the call. It actually starts with your preparation to make the call itself.
Some guys plop down on the couch and dial a phone sex line without any prepping, but they are really missing out! To get the full experience, they’ll need to organize themselves just a little bit. And, trust me, the effort will be rewarded during the phone sex call. So, to prep your space you basically want to make sure that you are as comfortable as possible and that you’ve got all your fun stuff nearby.
- Are you clean? Some guys prefer to be cleaned before making a sexy phone call. Others like to be dirty. This is totally up to your personal preference; however, if you are having phone sex with a lady who you are either in a long-distance relationship with or someone you know, you might end up sending nudes. So, maybe you want your junk to look cute.
- Are you wearing cozy clothes? Put on your most comfortable or sexy clothes before calling a phone sex line or calling a friend to have phone sex.
- Set the mood: There are lots of ways you can set the mood. You can light candles, put on music, look at your sexy self in the mirror, rev up some sexy images you’ve received in the past. Just make your space as sexual as possible before calling an erotic chat line, a phone sex line, or your phone sex lady.
- Do you have your tools? What do you like to play with while you are having phone sex. Lube? Or, are you into toys? Vibrators? Prostate massagers? Pocket pussies? The list goes on and on. Whatever you are into, make sure you’ve got it close by so that you don’t end up ruining the moment for yourself by needing to get up and get the materials. And, don’t forget that it might be nice to have a towel nearby for the sexy mess you’re about to make.
So, what are you wearing?
Now that we’ve gotten the boring stuff out of the way, let’s talk about foreplay as it relates to the phone call itself. It’s going to be a much better experience for you and your phone sex operator or lady phone sex friend if you dip your toe into the water rather than diving into full penetration talk. What’s everyone’s favorite line when they are about to engage in phone sex? It’s, “Hey, what are you wearing?” Ok, why is this so popular? Because it’s a pretty clean way to break the ice. It’s just sexy enough and comes with a ton of implications. Move through the conversation slowly, build it. up, and make her feel hot so that you get a genuine sexy reaction out of her rather than a fabricated one. The real, raw stuff is the sexiest, wouldn’t you agree? If this is all a lot to take on because you are nervous or shy, take comfort in the fact that practice makes perfect. If you need some great practice, take a peek at our list of phone sex numbers with free trails.
If you need some tips on how to have epic phone sex foreplay, don’t worry. We’ve got you covered.
Phone sex foreplay tips!
- “What are you wearing” – We just explained this one above, so if you’ve skipped all the way to this section, bring your lazy eyes to the paragraph right above this one you sexy potato!
- Imagine yourself seducing a woman: What are the first things you’d do? Would you kiss her gently? Describe this part of the process. It will help you lead the conversation in the direction you prefer.
- Be very detailed when you are describing: Use a ton of adjectives. Rather than saying, “I want to stick my penis in you,” you can say you want to caress your throbbing dick into her pink wetness. Think about it, which one turns you on more.
- Think about the senses: Touch, taste, vision, smell, sounds. Go through all of these senses in your mind, it will help you come up with things to describe.
- Imagine actual foreplay: What are your signature moves? What do you like her to do with you if you were in person? Go through the motions like you are watching a movie of your own sexual experience and describe it!
- Make her beg for it: People who are great at foreplay know how satisfying it can be to make a woman beg for it. You can do this with your words too!
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