Phone sex is, as they say, an art. It’s a skill to be mastered, and when done correctly, it’s a pretty generous skill. To master phone sex, you must first understand how sex works and how to pleasure someone else. That way, you’ll be able to incorporate that into your steamy narrative while you are having phone sex with your long-distance partner or at-home fuckbuddy. People who understand what hot sex is like are often pretty good at describing it during phone sex, allowing for both them and their partners to get off easily. Also, when you are good at phone sex, you make your partner better. They will be inspired by your ability to describe sex in a way that is almost as good as the real thing even though you’re on a phone. So, when it comes to things you can do to beef up your sex game, it’s really coming up with new ways to understand and visualize sex, along with enhancing your sexual vocabulary. The ways we are about to describe are things that you probably already know about, but maybe you’ve never thought of these things as more than a means of entertainment. Perhaps, you’ve never seen them as the learning tools that they actually are!
Read erotica
Reading erotica is one of the best ways that you can enhance your sexual vocabulary. Think of it as your sex homework for the day. There are so many erotica sites that you can visit which provide free erotica. You might think you hate reading until you get your hands on some of this juicy content. Think about it like this: erotica is pretty much a phone sex transcript. Sure, some of the stories have character development that you might not use, but the dirty words and the actual sex acts are laid out for you word-for-word in digestible, tantalizing bits. If you read enough of it, it will be ingrained inside your head. Sometimes when we read regular books or watch a show, we adopt some of the vernacular without even realizing it. We are simply immersed in the world of the story. And, with erotica, the world of the story is a sex world. Pay attention to the deep descriptions of each action, the way that the author paints a sexy picture with words, and the unique ways that the author uses to describe things as they are happening to the characters. If you familiarize yourself with the language, you’ll become a pro at repeating it in no time.
Watch porn + describe it
You’ve probably done this a bunch. Maybe, you even watch porn every single day. But, have you ever watched porn as a means of education rather than relaxation? Take this approach when you are watching porn for the sake of being better at phone sex. What watching porn does for phone sex is gives it a visual aid. While you are watching, try to describe what is happening on camera. Do it as detailed as possible. I’d even suggest muting the porn so that you can have a clear mind when trying to describe what you see happening. As you are talking it out, you’ll realize things you’ve never noticed about sex that would be really hot to describe for you and your partner! Not to mention, there’s such a vast array of porn videos that you can get. You can search virtually any fantasy in the search bar and bam… you’ve got tons of free vids to watch and describe. Think about the things you want to talk about on you phone sex calls. Or, text your phone sex partner and see if there is anything that he/she is into that you haven’t described before! Pay attention to all the little details and movements as you are watching! And, pay a huge amount of attention to foreplay as that is a very important element of phone sex you won’t want to forget about.
Buy new toys + a mirror
Like watching porn, it’s great to watch yourself in order to know how to describe touching yourself. It’s also a great way to pick up ways to tell your partner you want to be touched, or even consider your partner’s parts. When masturbating, try to think of everything that turns you on. I recommend buying new toys because new toys open up new ways in which for you to understand your own pleasure. A mirror is also absolutely recommended because you’ll want to be able to get a great look at the way your body is responding to pleasure. It’s also a healthy way to get to know your own body better. If you’ve never masturbated in a mirror, I definitely suggest it for your own wellbeing. I actually encourage people to use a mirror when they are on the phone with people and having phone sex because it provides some color and visuals that can be used as excitable turn-ons for the situation.
Practice with a PSO
This is, of course, the most sound and obvious way to practice phone sex. I’ve said it a million times, but phone sex operators DO NOT JUDGE! This is a totally judge-free space for you to work out all of your questions, kinks, fantasies, and mistakes when having phone sex. If you practice with operators, you will become an expert at making this a truly fun and pleasurable experience for your partner. It’s like going into the field with a coach. Not only is it really fun for you, but it’s not even that expensive. There are tons of phone sex numbers with free trials that you can call, but even the ones that charge you aren’t so bad. And imagine the valuable lessons you’ll learn from each call. It’s a fun way to learn with someone who is completely on your side throughout the entire process. You can divulge your fantasies if you want, work out talking or figuring out how to handle awkward moments if you are nervous.