How To Initiate Phone Sex If You Are Shy

Phone sex is such a glorious thing, especially during these times of isolation. It’s a great way to keep your sex life alive even if you can’t touch another person. It’s also awesome for people who can’t be together but are in relationships. A sex life, after all, is hugely important to the vitality of a relationship. You need that spark to keep things interesting! And, you need it to separate your relationship from just being a friend. But, maybe you’ve never had phone sex before. Or, maybe you think the person you’ve been flirting with for a little while might reject you or won’t be down to have some kinky phone sex fun. These things might be making you shake in your boots, but they don’t have to. There are ways to get around the awkwardness of asking for phone sex. Take it from me, taking the plunge and asking for it opens up an awesome phone sex world. So, it’s something you’re going to want to be able to do without getting all shy.

But first, call me!

Nothing wrong with some shameless self-promotion, eh? Ok, ok, you don’t have to call me. But, maybe you can call another phone sex operator. There are tons of phone sex lines that offer free trials, making this an inexpensive process, but I’ll tell you why it’s a good option. Calling a phone sex line is an awesome way to brush up on your phone sex skills. And, and, and… you get to speak to a literal professional who can give you some advice (like I’m about to do) or answer your burning phone sex questions! It’s so awesome when people call me looking for lessons, I feel like I am imparting my wisdom to the world and it feels good! Any PSO would be happy to help you through your nervousness.

 

Say this, not that

People often have not-so-great experiences with asking for phone sex because they say the wrong thing. I am here to let you know that there’s a right way to ask for phone sex, and it will make you feel so much less nervous once you know what you should say! So, here are some great lines to initiate phone sex with that girl you’ve been talking to, the person you’re in a LDR with, or even just a friend!

 

Say: “Are you interested in having phone sex?”

This is respectful, nice, and a mature way to ask to have phone sex. You’ll know immediately if your gal is into phone sex. You don’t have to worry about being rejected or anything also! If she says yes, then it’s on and you can start talking about what you’d do to her if she were with you. If she says no, then all you gotta do is say… “I totally understand, let me know if you ever change your mind.” Don’t push her because that’s just plain annoying, and you already asked. The downside is that it gives your girl a very easy way to say she’s not into it, even if she kind of is.

 

Don’t Say: “Here’s a pic of my dick”

Most. Girls. Don’t. Want. Unwarranted. Dick. Picks. I know to say this means that you kind of let her know it’s coming, but even still. It’s pretty annoying… and I am a sex worker! Sending a message like this isn’t going to get you what you want. It’s just going to make you seem like an asshole and probably just turn her off.

 

Say: “You made a sexy cameo in my dreams last night”

This is a nice way to lead into phone sex because it’s always fun to hear that you were in someone’s dream! So, not only are you making her smile, but you are also setting the tone and getting her in the mood. It’s an awesome mood.

 

Don’t say: “I’m soooo horny right now”

You sound desperate and annoying when you say this, so just don’t. In her mind, she’s like… ok, is it my job to make that go away? And, even if you think it is her job, NEVER let her know that! This is needy and unattractive, which is the opposite vibe or tone that you want to set while attempting to start having phone sex.

 

Say: “Let’s play a sexy game”

Games are a fun way to lead into phone sex. I’d suggest question or secret-telling games. I’m sure you can look up some sexy ones on the internet. But, a game is innocent, fun, and a gradual lead-in to the final shabam!

 

Don’t say: “I can’t stop watching porn”

Again, this is another way of saying, “I’m horny. Do something about it.” She doesn’t care that you’ve been watching porn, so don’t try to lead into having phone sex with this. Also, it probably makes her feel objectified. She’s not your porn star or your porn replacement! Don’t use this line on her.

 

Say: “I can’t stop thinking about our last fuck”

Memories are always super easy to lean on when having phone sex. It’s an experience you are both familiar with, so it’s easy to reference. It’s a quick way to get her on the same page as you and remind her of something that’ll probably make her horny. Also, it makes her feel special that there’s a time with her that gets you going. It means you were thinking about her and not just thinking about the phone sex.

 

Don’t say: “I wish you’d ride me right now”

This sounds sorta demanding and doesn’t leave her a lot to work with. It’s like a cheap way to lead into phone sex and you likely won’t get an awesome return, so why bother risking it with a lame line like this? She might say, “cool,” and then what?