So, you’re nervous to have phone sex. Believe it or not, I was nervous my first time too! And look – I’ve turned it into a profession. Now that I’ve done it so many times, I am obviously way less timid. But, these tips definitely helped me in the beginning. The truth is that there’s not a whole lot to be afraid of. Plus, phone sex is pretty much a necessity right now due to self-isolation. What most people fear is awkward moments, in which life is full of anyways. The best way to get around that awkwardness is to be prepared and have some fluffer moments on standby. Not sure what I mean? Check it out!
Make yourself as comfy as possible
You will have way less to fear if you are physically in your element. So, if that means you put on sexy underwear, do it. If it means you put on sweats or are sitting in the tub – do it! PS- If you decide to sit in a tub, be extremely careful with your phone if you don’t have a waterproof case. Do what you have to do to make your body as relaxed as possible!
Remember, this isn’t life or death
Phone sex is a fun, enjoyable thing that we are lucky to have in our lives! Trust me, whatever mistake you fear you’ll make while having phone sex, it’s not the end of the world. It’s nothing that will make you feel crappy beyond the call, and that’s if the call goes badly. Which it likely won’t go badly – it’ll be fine. You will survive your phone sex experience, even if it’s super awkward.
Bring toys
Toys always make playing more fun, right? Phone sex is a physical challenge as much as it’s a mental challenge. You’ve got to please yourself while chatting on the phone (duh). So, keep some fun toys nearby to help you out when you need it! Knowing you have some assistance to help you will surely take some of the pressure off. For women, I’d suggest a great vibrator.
Speaking of awkward…
Ok, there are a ton of ways to fill the awkward space! Just make sure you’ve got a few of these on deck, and you’ll blow past pretty much every single awkward moment there is…
- Moan: When in doubt, make sounds. Moaning is actually one of the most tantalizing, stimulating components of phone sex. Even if you aren’t nervous, it’s important to be vocal – because sounds is all that you and your phone sex partner have to go by!
- Reminisce: If you are chatting with someone you’ve already slept with and the phone sex starts to go south, go ahead and bring up a time in which the sex was really awesome. You can start by saying, “Remember when…”
- Describe the way you are touching yourself: If you run out of things to talk about, you can get really descriptive and graphic about how you are masturbating while on the call. It will ignite a new fire in a dying conversation!
- Send a nude: Here’s another way to bring a new element to a dying fire! Sending a nudie will give your partner more visuals to work with, and more things to describe.
Try Roleplaying
Sometimes, it’s easier to go outside of our comfort zones if we know we are playing another character. So, dig deep into your fantasies and try to find a role that you can play. You can make it known that you are taking on a role, or you can keep it to yourself and simply use the role as an exercise to let your alter-ego take over!
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