Are you ready? I’m about to destroy the phone sex fourth wall here, but believe it or not, I am not a phone sex queen at all hours of the day. The voice in my head isn’t (always) talking dirty talk and I am not constantly imagining sexual scenes. I am a person outside of my phone sex life, and that’s been really good for me. The person I am when I am on the line (speaking filthy phrases to strangers) is a part of me, but now the whole enchilada. It’s an alter-ego more or less. And the differentiation keeps me sane, honey!
The phone sex character I have created is what helps me be good at my job. What I want to talk to you about in this article is how you can create one for yourself. Phone sex might not be your bread and butter, but it sure is fun when you can do it with confidence. That’s exactly what creating a phone sex persona will do for you… give you that oomph of confidence that you’ve been missing! Dirty talk is a performance – you are pretty much playing a dirty version of yourself when you engage in phone sex. The question is, what version of that naughty you do you want to be?
Why Should I Create a Character?
Glad you asked. People often use roleplaying when they are having sex as a way to escape from their own limitations. There are tons of reasons why falling into a new mold will embolden you to make different and more explorative choices while having phone sex:
You take the heat off of your own back: Creating a persona takes the pressure off of you personally to be good at phone sex. When the weight is lifted and the responsibility shifts to the character’s, you will feel freer to say what’s really on your mind – without fear of judgment.
You jump into the world of play: Building a character takes imagination. When you begin your phone sex call in the land of imagination, you give yourself creative license to play around and try things you might normally not try. You can add other imagined characters, scenarios, and props that don’t exist in the real world. It strengthens the fantasy of phone sex. You can also use the character, again and again, to help you set the mood and tone of your future phone sex calls.
How To Create The Persona
This is the fun part! Now you get to decide who you want to be! Choosing a phone sex persona has a lot to do with your personality, sexual preferences, and the way that you see yourself. Let’s get started…
Are you dominant or submissive? This is going to be one of the biggest pieces of the character development. It will inform the rest of the character, but you don’t need to have a direct answer. If you find yourself sitting somewhere in the middle, or switching from time to time, that is ok! Just try to figure out who you are sexually. Do you like to take charge or do you like when others take charge?
Who do you wish to be? Creating a character from your imagination means you can be anything you want to be! This can be as straightforward as being a teacher who loves naughty students, or a pop star who wants to get laid while on tour. It can just be a chap who loves to have sex. The point is to reach to the top. There’s no room to settle for mediocrity in the world of your own imagination.
What turns you on? Your character is going to inform and direct your phone sex partners in how to have phone sex with you. That’s why you need to think about what turns you on. Do you love when a phone sex partner tells you what they are going to do to you? Do you love when they beg, moan, or send photos throughout the phone sex process? Incorporate these turn-ons, fetishes, and kinks into the needs and wants of your phone sex persona.
How can you enhance your character? If you really want to do all of your homework, you will treat your phone sex character as an acting assignment. My theater geeks are going to love this one! Dive into things outside of the bedroom that enhance your character. Does your persona have a weird tick, a mother who always interrupts their phone sex time, a noisy neighbor who has sex at the same time? Even if you don’t dive into this during any call, it will help you stay in character during each phone sex chat!
These are my tried-and-true phone sex secrets that I use to satisfy some of my hungriest clients. Phone sex is about believability and confidence. When I jump into phone sex knowing who I am and what I want out of the call, my partner is always encouraged and the whole shebang is that much hotter!