You might have an affinity for somebody who happens to be a little bit shy or reserved when it comes to speaking openly about sex. This doesn’t mean that your phone sex woman/man doesn’t WANT to have those steamy phone sex experiences with you, it just means that you might need to calmly and patiently coax them out of their shell. We have compiled a couple of ways to help your partner open up in order to achieve the phone sex you crave.
Take Control
When your S.O. isn’t fully comfortable or confident in something that is going on, this would be your cue to take the reins and lead them in the right direction. The more they hear you voicing all of your sexual fantasies, the more they will feel comfortable doing the same thing. Make sure to lead the conversation in the direction that you want it to go – ask less and tell more. Sure, this dynamic might change later, but asking your phone sex partner what they want to do to you when they’re not comfortable yet might not be the best idea. Instead, tell them what you want to do to them, or even what you want them to do to you. Let them know you are accepting of anything that is going to come out of their mouths and encourage them when they finally get up the courage to phone sex away. Lead by example. Be free and freaky.
Have An Honest Conversation
That’s right folks. It really can be that simple – have an honest convo with your phone sex pal about why they are uncomfortable if there is anything you can do to ease any discomfort they are having, and even talk a little bit about the fantasies you have had in the past or the reason why you want to have phone sex SPECIFICALLY with THEM. Make sure to let them have the floor to talk about anything they feel is pertinent and then go have some fun phone sex together.
Sext Before Sex
Some people find it much easier to express themselves when they don’t have to open their mouth but rather put pen to paper, (or fingers to keyboard in this case,) so why not start with something that is a bit more their speed? Sure, pushing your phone sex partner to explore new things with you and break out of their comfort zone is great, but you also want them to feel comfortable enough with you to be able to open up to you about a subject that many people find daunting: sex. If you’re finding it hard to get through to your phone sex partner, or they are having too much trouble getting into it with you, sexting first may be the way to go. From there, you can slowly transition to phone sex. Maybe all you need is to have one of those honest conversations we just spoke about, but instead of on the phone, maybe try having it via text. If none of these work….maybe your phone sex partner isn’t ready to be a phone sex partner at all.