There might come a time in your life where phone sex is a necessity – long-distance relationships, anyone? Or maybe you and your boo want to spice up your sex life and try something new. Or you may just want to call into a phone sex line on a lonely night in after one too many glasses of wine….maybe you want to practice turning people on with your tongue, (no, not in that way,) for the next time you have a sexual encounter with that cutie you have had your eye on for a while. Whatever the case may be, there are tons of ways to up your phone sex game in order to instill some more confidence in your dirty talk. We have tried all of these on this list, and all of them will help your phone sex game exponentially. Some of these are to be done on your own time, others are meant to be done with your partner. Let’s get to it.
Read Erotica
Not only is there a plethora of erotica available online, but the majority of it is also completely free. No matter the kink or style of writing you are into, there is something out there for everybody. Be patient and sift through as many different categories of erotica as possible. Soak it up. It may sound ridiculous, but try saying some of the sentences out loud as if you are on the phone turning on your sexy woman/man. The more you play around with the words, the more comfortable, confident, and natural you will sound when the time comes to whip them out.
Call Into Fantasy Lines
Calling into fantasy phone sex lines might just be our favorite method of getting our phone sex game on point. This is real-time practice with none of the consequences, (feeling embarrassed over something you said etc.). Just like with the erotica, there are tons of different categories to choose from when calling in. We suggest not only calling into fantasy lines that cater to your already existing kinks but also calling into lines that cater to things/subjects that may peak your interest and/or your partner’s interest(s). These do usually cost money to call into, since you are talking to phone sex operators, but there are definitely some free ones out there where you are able to talk to the everyday woman with dark and naughty fantasies.
Focus on Language
Talk to your partner about the language they prefer you use. Do they like certain body parts to be identified using certain words? Do some words make your partner feel degraded or uncomfortable? If they do, simply veer away from using that language. Don’t feel embarrassed about asking and don’t feel like this is a stupid conversation to have. Your S.O. will thank you for caring enough about their feelings to ask. At the end of the day, everyone wants a nice guy/gal.
Focus on Boundaries
Ask your partner if there are any boundaries they should be aware of. Are there any subjects that are off limits? Are there any sexual acts that they don’t want to touch upon? You never know what someone has already tried and disliked, tried and loved, and you never know what someone has gone through in their past. Boundaries should be #1 on your list. If you are able to create a safe space to play in, you will both get so much more out of your phone sex.
Mutual M – Noises and All
Phone sex doesn’t have to equate to talking constantly and making sure that there are no silences. Dirty talk is part of it, but sometimes allowing your noises to speak for themselves will do volumes for your phone sex life. Phone sex is about mutual masturbation after all, and what could be hotter than your sexy guy/gal breathing heavily in your ear as they are reaching climax?