If you have been struggling through a long-distance relationship, you might be tempted to introduce phone sex into your liaison. It’s a good question to ponder, as there are pros and cons to adding it to the mix of the ways you are already communicating with your partner. Some people think that it adds a spark and much-needed connection across the miles, while others think that it can become a burden. You need to decide for yourself, but use the thoughts below to guide your decision-making.
Keeps You Close Across the Miles
One positive for introducing phone sex into your long-distance relationship is to keep you close. If you are dating someone, your physical relationship is a big part of that, and if you cannot be together phone sex is a plausible substitute for that. Although it is not as good as the real deal, you can talk each other through some heated scenarios and share those intimate moments together.
Builds Intimacy
Obviously, making love to your partner when they are in the same room as you build intimacy. But there is also a special kind of intimacy created together when you have to “talk through” sex. It gives you a chance for secret-telling and exploration that you might not normally get if you are simply enjoying your “same old” physical relationship.
Gives You Something to Look Forward To
After so many nights apart, phone sex can give you something to look forward about each other and is a good way to build excitement throughout the week. Sure, date night will take on a whole different tone, but it is still nice to make plans to be intimate together.
Could Get Overwhelming if it Takes too Much Time
There are a few downsides to bringing phone sex into a relationship. There is a sort of addictive quality to it, and you may feel like you have to make plans for phone sex all of the time. This can get overwhelming and make you feel like you are just going through the motions.
Might Keep You From More Important Issues
If you spend too much time on phone sex, you might miss other important elements of your relationship that need attention, such as communicating about important decisions or situations that arise. Sure, phone sex brings a sense of excitement and connection, but there are other ways to feel that in a relationship that might be overshadowed if you are constantly trying to turn each other on. Look at the overall relationship to decide what is the most important for you as a couple.
When all is said and done, you need to make the decision for your particular relationship about what will and won’t work for you. This is a very intimate and personal decision and you need to talk it through with your partner and do what is best for both of you.