With your phone in your hand basically 24/7, it has become a tool to improve communication in a variety of forms. From ordering a pizza to texting a loved one a question or comment, there is such a wide variety of uses for your phone. And if you are in a romantic relationship, you can even use it to up your game by communicating with your partner through phone sex. But first, you have to know if phone sex is even right for you in the first place. Some folks especially love using phone sex in long-distance relationships. But, it’s not for everyone.
What is Phone Sex?
During phone sex, you and your partner will talk on the phone, simulating what you would like to do to him in a sexual encounter, touching yourselves in the process as you play through the scene. In other words, phone sex is having sex with your partner virtually, complete with all of the moaning and sexy talk.
What Does Phone Sex Offer?
Phone sex is good for people who are in a long-distance relationship or those who can’t be together for one reason or another. Some people just like the novelty of doing it over the phone, talking their partner through what they normally enjoy together. Phone sex offers another way to communicate and connect with your partner and another way to build intimacy.
Letting Your Partner Know Its Not Your Style
Phone sex is fun and a great way to achieve intimacy when you can’t be together, but sometimes it is just not your style. If you are not into phone sex, you need to tell your partner that you aren’t comfortable doing it virtually and would prefer the real deal. It won’t be fun for either of you if you are uncomfortable and not enjoying it, so it is important to speak your truth. Resentment can build quickly in a case like this, so just saying (or texting) “I don’t feel comfortable with this” is a good way to start the conversation.
Other Forms of Intimacy
If you are telling your partner that you not interested in phone sex, reiterate your positive and loving feelings for him so he does not feel rejected. You can explain that you just prefer the real thing and doing it over the phone makes you feel uncomfortable. Phone sex can definitely be an acquired taste, and you should not do anything that makes you feel uncomfortable, especially in a loving relationship.
Although phone sex can be a great way to communicate and build the bonds of your relationship, especially when you are far away, if you are not comfortable with it you need to speak up and explain that to your partner. This way you will build an even more intimate relationship based on trust and communication with each other.