So you’re looking to become a phone sex operator. You may have heard that it’s easy money, that you can work from home and make your own hours. Sounds like a dream job, huh? While there’s a grain of truth to all that, the reality, of course, is that it’s more complicated.
I’d like to share my ideas on how to become a phone sex operator, what it’s like to be one, what to do and what to avoid. I’ve been in the business for over ten years and have my share of lumps to tell an honest story.
The first thing you should know is that not every company you reach out to is looking to hire, nor are they necessarily legitimate. Always check the Better Business Bureau ratings of any company you apply to. They generally have a good track record of sorting out the real companies from the scams. A good place to start would be a company like PhoneStars. They’re affiliated with APS and have worked with thousands of phone sex actors over the years. Again, check the BBB rating.
Typically a phone sex company will audition you. You’re trying out for a part, so to speak. These auditions shouldn’t last longer than 5-10 minutes. If your interviewer extends it beyond that, or asks too many questions, move on to a different company.
You won’t make hundreds of dollars working a few hours each night. Realistically, you’ll make anywhere form 10-50 cents per call. Yes, cents. This is a volume business. There’s a misconception that phone sex is expensive and therefore lucrative. It’s not cheap, that’s for sure. But remember – the majority of revenue goes to the company you work with. You only get a small percentage. Unfair as it may be, that’s just the way it is. If you’re looking to make a living doing this, expect to field thousands of calls per month.
Working as a phone sex operator is akin to being an actress. It’s a performance. It’s not easy. Your success depends on the quality of your performance. If you’re not skilled at the art of dirty talking, brush up. Getting men off purely with the sound of your voice is the whole show. And, of course, it’s not the sound alone that does the trick – it’s what you say. If you’re unsure about your dirty talking skills and need to brush up, there are plenty of resources. If you’re in a relationship already, practice with your significant other. Feel out your comfort level. If you’re just starting out, know that whatever you’re uncomfortable with now is something you likely won’t be uncomfortable with as you practice and become a seasoned phone sex actress. Like any skill, it takes practice. And even if you have someone to practice with, the best practice is actual “game time.” You’ll have to field calls from actual phone sex customers to hone your skills. Get good by doing it.
Now, I won’t be coy. You’re going to hear some things that may make you uncomfortable. Phone sex customers are not exactly Average Joes. They’re very particular kind of customers with very
particular kinds of kinks. Absent hearing anything illegal, your ability to “go with it” and improvise will determine how successful you are as an operator. Don’t be shocked. Maintain a thick skin and remember that you get paid when your customer gets “laid.” Keep the show going at (almost) all costs.
Use an alias. The last thing you need is random people knowing your actual name. Think of something alluring. This is virtual sex after all. Don’t have an idea what to use as an alias? Why not combine your middle name with your street name? That’s a classic. Whatever you choose, make sure it in no way reflects your birth name.
Please, buy a comfortable headset. You’re going to be on the phone quite a bit and using it a lot. You don’t want to be holding you cellphone to your ear or speaking through your earbud headphones. Buy a professional headset. I recommend this one, but check out all your options.