Although it certainly seems like phone sex would be nothing but fun, sometimes phone sex can make people nervous, especially if it is the first time or if a person is shy, to begin with. It can be difficult to figure out how to pleasure yourself and keep up the line of conversation. But never fear! Five easy tips below will make your conversation flow and help you find intimate pleasure with your partner and help you become less nervous while having phone sex.
Be Honest Up Front
In order to make phone sex more fun, it helps to get some of the nuts and bolts out of the way first. Have a frank discussion, especially if this is your first time, and talk about your expectations. For instance, if you are shy, ask your partner not to ask you open-ended questions but more yes and no questions. If you want to pretend to be someone you are not, this is a good time to bring it up, so that your partner will go along with you.
Be Descriptive
Even though you might never have written the great American novel, description is everything when it comes to phone sex. Take your time, describe everything in complete detail, and be willing to use your language well. “I want to touch you slowly and lick every part of you” is much more descriptive than “I want to touch you,” and will definitely get more play from being as descriptive as possible!
Keep the Conversation Going
It can be tricky to keep the conversation flowing if you are trying to simultaneously take care of business. But trust us, a few well-placed moans and heavy breathing will do the trick. And if all else fails, a plea like “Please touch me there” will keep both the conversation and the juices flowing. Commands are always helpful, especially if you haven’t seen your partner in a while. This is especially true for long-distance relationship phone sex.
Get in the Mood
As will anything else, attitude is everything. Make sure you are in the mood for phone sex in order to make it great. Create anticipation by sexting your partner throughout the day prior to the main event. And once you are ready, dressing comfortably, setting the lighting to low, and lighting a candle can all add to the ambience you are trying to attain. But even if you are enjoying phone sex at the last second, you can just jump into it and enjoy it with the right mindset. Who doesn’t like such amazing surprises?
End With Style
Let’s face it, ending phone sex can be awkward at best. If all goes as planned, you will both experience an orgasm, but then what? Save some time to talk, whisper, and tell each other that was amazing, rather than just hanging up immediately. This will pave the way for a better connection and more experiences of phone sex in the future.
With all the rest of the stress and worry that the world can contain, phone sex of all things should be fun! Follow the tips above to give yourself a great time, and your partner will be looking for more fun sooner rather than later!