Why Phone Sex Is A Great Way To Expressed Repressed Sexual Thoughts

When people think of their sexual fantasies (such as BDSM, Daddy, Cuckolding, etc.), they may get immediately embarrassed, turned on, or feel ashamed. There is something that feels secretive and almost dark about having a sexual fantasy. We’re here to let you in on a little secret: everyone has sexual fantasies! Our society has plagued all things sexual as taboo or dirty when in actuality, humans are sexual beings! It’s one of the best parts of being human. There are actually studies that suggest that both women and men think about sex every few minutes. There are even more studies that suggest that people think about sex every few seconds. If we are thinking about sex that often and mentally exploring fantasies, then why is it seen as something that is categorically ‘wrong’ or ‘dirty’ by most people? This needs to change. Why? Well, studies suggest that repressing or burying our sexual fantasies has long-term negative effects on our mental health. It can cause depression, anxiety, and other emotional damage along with damaging someone’s sex life. The depression caused by repression of sexual thoughts is often not even obviously linked to sex itself and manifests in ways that disrupt nearly all areas of life from work, to relational, emotional, and sexual. 

 

Sexual shame is something that has been unfortunately bestowed unto humankind for centuries. Remember when Adam and Eve didn’t mind being in the nude? Something changed, causing them to feel ashamed of their genitals. Even as children we are taught that natural sexual experiences are either wrong or shameful, and sometimes adults even humiliate children for being curious rather than teaching them about sexuality, which is supposedly the healthy way to approach the subject due to the severe repercussions of shaming children when they inquire about sex. Those repercussions are often expressed as depression or anxiety in adulthood. There are all types of theories as to why the idea of a sexual fantasy incurs shame among adults in society. Due to the shame, most adults need a safe place to explore their fantasies, and what better place to explore those fantasies than the safe world of phone sex?

 

Here’s why exploring sexual fantasies via phone sex works and helps people mentally. First and foremost, phone sex allows people to discuss sexual fantasies anonymously, to a stranger, in a safe environment such as their home or private room within a home. Giving someone the space to express themselves within confines absent of fears allows people to get to their ultimate truths without holding anything back. When people are able to fully express their fantasies, they don’t feel as if anything is hidden or needs to remain hidden at all. There’s no need to feel sexual shame of any kind!

 

More than the safety of the space which phone sex provides, it also provides professionals who have heard almost everything and who are trained to make the person on the other end of the line feel comfortable. In other words, they don’t express judgment to the people divulging their innermost thoughts. While phone sex operators are not counselors, they can be likened to them in these situations as they remain judgment-free listeners of your kinky phone sex fantasies. However, the difference between phone sex and therapy is that the operators act as willing participants rather than trained professionals. This has pros and cons. In terms of cons, these people are not able to recognize key issues that a person may need to address. However, pros include the fulfillment of fantasy, the ability to make someone feel less alone in his/her thoughts, and enjoyment. Phone sex is a great addition to therapy when attempting to understand, dissect, and explore sexual fantasies! 

 

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