I talk a lot about what you should do to have fantastic phone sex. You should set the mood, get consent, ask your partner what they are into, incorporate aftercare, laugh through awkward phone sex moments. The list really goes on and on. But what’s a little more complex of a topic is what you should NOT do in order to have great phone sex. There aren’t a ton of limitations when it comes to phone sex, which is part of the fun of it, but there are certainly things you want to avoid. I am going to break down all of that for you in this article so that you can have the best phone sex of your life.
Ask First
You should never just dive into phone sex without asking your partner if they are into the idea. This rarely works out for the best and consent is always really important when you are having phone sex. Let’s say your partner isn’t super into phone sex. Then you can ask them if they’d mind if you called a free phone sex number to get your fantasy fulfilled. It can help to explain it in a way in which you have a need that you want met, you don’t want to make them uncomfortable, and you will never actually meet up with the person you are having phone sex with on the line. If they again don’t want you to do that, you and your partner need to have an open discussion about your sexual needs. The point here is that communication is key!
Don’t Be Shy
Phone sex can be intimidating, but the best thing about phone sex is that it’s one of the only places where you can freely explore your fantasies with another person in the safety of your comfort zone. You don’t have to do any of the things you are talking about, but you can use phone sex to test the possibilities of sex and try things in your mind that you’ve never tried before! There are no limits when you’re having sex in your imagination, so try things you might be afraid of in real life and ask your partner if there are any fantasies that they have considered but never actually tried. This can further foster a sense of closeness between you and your partner! Don’t be shy about your desires.
Don’t Forget To Check In
Pre-care and aftercare are some of the most important aspects of great phone sex. Let your partner know that you are there for them and their needs by checking in every so often. Before the call, ask if there’s anything specific they want to talk about. During the call, ask how they are doing. After the call, ask how they felt about the phone sex and if they’d want to try it again another time. By doing this, you are setting up an open and comfortable atmosphere in which sex can flow freely and phone sex can flourish!