With so much going on in the world, like busy schedules, travel for work, and just plain old different schedules, you and your beloved may be forced to have phone sex instead of enjoying your normal intimacy together in the same room. Or maybe you have met someone online or through a free phone sex line, and you have been chatting and wanting to take it to the next level. No matter what the reason, if you are ready for phone sex, you need our tips below. Like anything else, if it is worth doing, it is worth doing right!
Build the Intimacy Slowly
The number one tip for phone sex is that you need to build intimacy slowly. You can’t just jump on a call and ask your partner to get off. With sweet intimate comments and follow-up questions, you can make your point very clear without startling your partner. And yes, this is the kind of thing you need to ask permission for, as you can’t just jump in and demand phone sex. Slow and steady wins the race, and trust us: this is a race you really want to win!
Insinuate What You Want
As we said before, don’t spoil the magic by being too direct. Instead of just saying “I want you. Let’s have phone sex tonight,” you should be a little less direct. Say something like “I’ve been having a difficult problem and I hope you can help me take care of it later.” These insinuations will build the sexual tension between you and end up making your phone sex more explosive later. Half the fun of sex is the game, and if you are far away, you can play the game by insinuating what you want.
Ask Questions
At the heart of good phone sex is good communication, and asking questions is a great way to do that. Feel free to start with a standard like “What are you wearing,” and then build from there. Asking about intimacies will lead you down the path of phone sex and heat you both up. This will help your partner tell you what he or she likes, and you will feel more confident about pleasing them. This will also translate to the bedroom if you are able to get together in the future, and can really help build a relationship.
Raise the Bar
Part of the reason for the questions is to get at your partner’s naughtier side. Phone sex is a great way to bring out the tiger in your partner, and to take them to levels that even surprise themselves. Push gently, but definitely push to bring out this sexier side of your phone sex partner.
At the end of the day, phone sex is about being playful and fun, and pushing each other to new heights of intimacy. With these helpful tips, you will be well on your way to enjoying each other in a new way.