Phone sex can be scary, especially if you’re a total newbie. It took me a while to become the phone sex maven that I am today. I’ll admit – I was a little nervous the first time I ever had phone sex with someone! There’s really nothing to worry about. That’s something I learned quickly. But I know that doesn’t mean that nerves can’t get the best of us. Excited nerves can be sexy, but pure anxiety? It’s not that hot. So I am going to give you some ideas on how to get rid of those phone sex jitters because you deserve out-of-this-world phone sex every single time!
- Call A Phone Sex Line: Ok, shameless plug. But it doesn’t even have to be my line! The reason why calling a phone sex line can help you ease those nerves is because the professionals are there to make you feel good. If you’ve never had phone sex in the past, this can be a good way to show yourself that there’s nothing to fear. Plenty of numbers offer free phone sex time. Yes, you can practice the art of dirty talk without paying for it! Take advantage of those free trials.
- Touch Yourself: Phone sex usually involves masturbation anyways. You can start pleasuring yourself before the call begins. It will serve as a way to get you going and feeling sexy. It will also relax some of the tension you feel.
- Communicate: How close are you with your phone sex partner? If you are going to be speaking the erotic language of sex with one another on the phone, it would be reasonable to assume that you can talk to this person. Even if they are a new hook up, you should still be able to communicate your anxiety. Telling your partner that you’re a little nervous will break the ice. And – they’re probably nervous too!
- Set Boundaries: You don’t have to go all in right away. You can take things slow and set strong boundaries regarding what you are and aren’t comfortable with. If there’s a subject you don’t want to be brought up or a name you don’t want to be called during the phone sex, you should tell your partner beforehand so that you won’t be worrying about it during the call.
- Role Play: Sometimes we need to invent a persona to feel confident. Celebs do it all the time! When they get on stage, they are someone else. A character. It helps them take some of the pressure off of themselves. The same thought process could be applied to role-playing during sex! A character gives you a new way to explore your fantasies without taking on all of the pressure.
These little tips can make a world of difference to your phone sex experience. In my opinion, communication is the biggest one. If you are in a long-distance relationship or a serious relationship, this is probably easier for you. Those in newer relationships or casual flings might feel awkward communicating their true feelings to a new partner. But here’s a little secret – people respect communication! And it will probably relieve your partner to know that you are nervous because they are too!