Ok, so you’re past the breakup and the wound has healed. But then you get that ping on your phone from a name that jolts you: It’s your ex. The flood of emotions starts overwhelming you and you begin to sweat. Then, suddenly they start getting hot and heavy and it’s clear they want one thing: Phone sex. You wager with yourself: What’s the harm? Should you do it? Would it be fun? Instead of playing this game of negotiation with yourself, I am here to help you figure out whether or not phone sex is a good idea at this time.
First, let’s talk about the benefits of phone sex:
There are so many reasons why phone sex is beneficial to couples. It helps with communication, strengthens a bond, and improves a sex life that you’re in the middle of developing with someone. It’s great for new partners and works wonders in increasing the confidence levels of both partners.
Phone sex with a professional (like me!) is also known to have benefits. It helps you understand your own fantasies, overcome shyness, and develop a language for sex that you may have not otherwise had. Plus, it’s a great and fun way to pass the time and expand your sexual portfolio! It can even introduce you to folks in your area through free erotic phone sex numbers.
Now, these are two phone sex situations that include someone you’re actively involved with and a stranger. The game is totally changed when phone sex is with someone who you already have a history with and that history might be kind of rocky.
Phone Sex With Your Ex
Phone sex with an ex can be fun – I’ll just go ahead and admit that. I too have been guilty of it in the past. But the only time it really works out is if the feelings are gone or if both exes are having a resurgence of feelings. Now if your feelings are totally gone, your ex isn’t your responsibility anymore. While it would be nice to say, “Hey we can have phone sex, but this doesn’t mean we’re together again” you don’t have to. I know that’s controversial, but it’s the truth if they reached out to you.
But if you have feelings for them, that’s when things get super messy. Phone sex might open up wounds that you have spent time closing and working on. So, if that’s the case and the breakup was painful, it’s a bad idea.
Yes, there’s a chance they are reaching out with phone sex because they still have feelings for you… but probably not. It’s a very sexual message from someone you’re no longer intimate with. If you’d only engage because you want to re-spark an old flame with the hope of getting back together, I’d avoid the phone sex.
As much as I am a proponent for most things phone sex, protect your heart, and avoid it with your ex. The emotional turmoil is just not worth it!
Hope that helps you out guys and gals! As always, I am here to help and you can reach out at any point for more advice.