When having phone sex, a sex toy can really come in handy. It’s a way to make the fantasy seem more real, more alive, and much more hot. Who could ask for more? This is especially true for women who frankly have much more work to do in the masturbation department than men do. In my epic phone sex guide, I mentioned how important toys were to phone sex. But, not everyone knows how to handle a sex toy. And, if it’s so important for phone sex, you’re going to want to make sure you know exactly what you’re doing with a sex toy. There are safety measures to take and also ways to use your sex toy! Here are some of the most important things to keep in mind when getting a new sex toy.
Use toys for multiple areas (safely): Toys that vibrate can be fun to experiment with other areas of the body. I do strongly recommend keeping anal toys totally separate from vaginal toys. But, a vaginal vibrator might feel nice on the nipples as a form of masturbatory foreplay. Use your clitoral or vaginal toys to simulate external areas of the body that are clean as a way to turn yourself on and explore your body!
Use toys so you can use your hands elsewhere: Toys are a great way to get the job done in one area of the body while your hands work another area! For example, you can insert a g-spot vibrator while your hands roam your clitoris or your nipples for added stimulation! Allow your fingers to travel along your skin while the vibrator hits the sweet spot! Or, you can use your other hand to happily hold your phone! Easy-peasy!
Use Lubricant: Lubricant is going to make the experience more slippery, wet, pleasurable, and fun! Make sure that it is, again, safe lubricant. Some people have reactions to various types of lube. Once you know which lubricant works for you, use it with your sex toy. Sometimes, toys can feel too intense at first. But with a little bit of lubricant, that intensity can simmer into something extremely pleasurable due to the ease that the lubricant adds to the toy. And, it’ll upgrade your phone sex experience.
How to find the perfect sex toy: Think about how you masturbate as not all toys are equal in how they pleasure you. Are you someone who enjoys penetration, clitoral stimulation, nipple play, etc.? What are your phone sex fantasies? Consider what gets you off manually when you are buying the toy and allow for that toy to enhance what you already love! And, consider how you like to use the toys during phone sex. Especially for beginners, I suggest going with what you know before diving into new territory. For example, if anal is a foreign land to you, don’t purchase an anal sex toy or use a toy anally without first discovering the toys that get you off on your own familiar turf. Also, consider how you like to be pleasured. If you are someone who enjoys getting eaten out, a clitoral sucking toy with some lubricant is going to drive you wild!
Safety: Sex toys often come with instructions, so read them. This is due to the fact that sex toys are made of various materials, some are waterproof, and they operate differently. Make sure your toy is made of a body-safe material such as medical-grade silicone. There are other materials like neoskin or even rubber that aren’t safe for your body. Because there are so many toys made out of silicone, you can likely find one that works for you that is safe. Also, keep anal toys separate from toys you use for vaginal penetration.
Clean your toys: You must clean your toys after each use and you can do so with antibacterial soap and water. Each time a toy touches your sensitive areas, you’ll want it to be completely clean. Which also means the toy should be stored somewhere that is clean.
Anal – Flared base and always use lubricant: Your anus is full of sensitive tissue, so make sure that your toy adheres to the anal toy rules: a flared base and allows for lubricant use. This will keep it comfortable, safe, and pleasurable.
Try alone before including other people in your toy use: If you are going to try using a toy with a partner, make sure you use it alone first. This way, you’ll know the best way to use the toy. You’ll be aware of exactly how it pleasures you. And that way, you won’t feel like the toy is a mysterious foreign object while having sex. Rather than letting it get in the way, you can use it to electrify the experience.
Experiment with vibration settings: This can be a game-changer, especially with toys that stimulate the clit. Some people are ultra-sensitive, while others need a strong vibrator to do the trick. Many toys come with various vibration settings that you should experiment with so that you know what works best for you and your body!
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