Just because you are ready and willing to use your words to turn your partner and yourself on, doesn’t mean that your partner is in the same mindset. People, namely women, are shamed for being sexual at such a young age that vocalizing our wants and needs can become next to impossible, never mind adding in some dirty talk to that equation. To find someone that you find you can open up to in this way can be really special and bond you two in ways you couldn’t imagine.
Being able to talk about anything and everything without fear of repercussions or being judged will allow you and your love to grow exponentially, not only in the boudoir but in your everyday lives as well. So how do you achieve this level of intimacy? And don’t think intimacy, in this case, has to be soft and loving. If you both agree to get naughty and kinky and downright dirty talk, that IS a form of intimacy. We will now guide you in order to help you help your uncomfortable partner become comfortable during phone sex.
Compliment!
Compliment your lover. Make them feel sexy and wanted. Make them feel just a little bit more comfortable in their own skin than they felt a minute ago.
Open Up The Floor!
If you are more sexually comfortable, it is your turn to take the lead. Open up the floor to a candid convo about your want to have phone sex. Don’t be pushy, but don’t shy away from voicing what it is that you want exactly. Ask him/her how they feel about testing the waters. Tell them that you can take things slow and always remind them that they are the ones in control of how far the conversation goes. Make your lover feel comfortable and secure in your relationship. Allow them to think about how much fun this new form of sexual intimacy can be. And remind them that when you aren’t able to be near one another, this is a fun way to connect!
One-Sided For Once!
Maybe the first time you and your woman/man have phone sex, purposefully make it one-sided. Tell him/her that you are going to take care of them this time. Tell them you just want to hear their pants, moans, and screams. Then set the scene and get to talking. By them experiencing you being able to be so open and say whatever sexual desires you have and want to do to them, it will show them that they can do the same with you. There is absolutely no need to be embarrassed!
Fantasies!
Ask your phone sex lover if they have any fantasies they want help bringing to life. Just the fact that you’re getting them to talk about their fantasies means that you’re making progress! Once again, take the lead with the fantasy that they offer up. This time, sprinkling in some questions so that they can get involved in the storytelling aspect this time.
Tug-Of-War!
At the end of the day, phone sex should be a two-way street; it should be a push and pull of ideas, descriptions, moans, groans….At some point, your partner is going to have to let go and join in if this phone sex relationship is going to work. Once again, don’t rush it, but also don’t wait around forever. Because there is somebody who wants that sexy voice of yours on the other end of their phone