Whether you’re just hooking up with someone or in a full-on relationship, phone sex is something that’s on the table for anyone at all times. Even if you aren’t seeing anyone right now, there are plenty of free phone sex numbers that you can call to experience it for yourself! It’s a lot less awkward that way, but if you’re going for it for the first time with someone you know, a little bit of weirdness is pretty much inevitable. Staying confident during phone sex is an important factor in order to get the most out of it! The easiest way to do that is to have as much fun as possible. I am going to give you some tips on how to keep phone sex light and breezy between you and your partner.
Get Consent Out Of The Way
The worst thing you can do is spring phone sex onto someone who isn’t expecting it. Phone sex is a sex act, and that requires consent. Getting consent can be sexy and part of the foreplay process! It’s as simple as asking or texting your partner this question: “Are you interested in having phone sex.” It doesn’t have to be that blunt either! You can also coyly say that you’ve been wanting to try something new and it has to do with phones and sex. Getting consent out of the way ensures that your partner is ready to have the type of fun that you also want to have during your call!
Take The Pressure Off Of Yourself
Nobody expects you to be a phone sex queen or king right away (besides, that’s my job!). Take the pressure off of yourself and know that there are going to be some bumps in the road…and that’s totally normal! You don’t have to be perfect at phone sex during your first go. You can even laugh if it gets a little silly or awkward. That level of acceptance and ease will also put your partner’s mind at ease. The calmer you both are about the phone sex, the better it will be.
Focus On One Thing At A Time
Phone sex is actually an exercise in staying present. You want to talk as if you are in the room with that person and taking them through what you’d like them to do to you, or what you want to do to them, moment by moment. By staying present and not worrying about what you’re going to say next, you are making the situation more of a breeze and actually giving your chance to be even more detailed. Staying present helps you better access the deepest folds of your imagination, which is fantastic for phone sex!
Use Visuals
If you know and trust your partner, sending and exchanging photos or videos can be really helpful. It adds another layer to the phone sex. And, there’s no right or wrong way to do this. You can send photos totally clothed, completely nude, and you can even access your archive of sexy pictures. There are no rules to phone sex, just that you and your partner are both comfortable!
Hopefully, these tips make you feel better about having phone sex with your partner and give you a good chance of keeping it light, fun, exciting and sexy!