I’ve discussed the benefits of phone sex over and over again on this page. Woo baby, it can be so good for your mental wellbeing and physical pleasure. It’s also bomb for your relationship woes, especially if you are in a long-distance relationship. Phone sex rocks. But it can still feel uncomfortable for some erotic phone newcomers. Why do people feel so weird about phone sex? Normally it’s because they are insecure about their skills. Dirty talk is a huge component for great phone sex. Exploring fantasies is another. Masturbation is, of course, up there as well.
Masturbation is a tale as old as time. We’ve been doing it for centuries since we figured out that we could reach down there, but it’s still a massively taboo subject. Female masturbation? That’s an even less-accepted subject. Women are taught to be ashamed of their desire for pleasure while a man’s satisfaction is usually thrown up on a pedestal. It’s no wonder why women aren’t apt to jump all over the subject when it’s brought up in public settings. Even in private women are shy about masturbation.
I have heard of women who get squeamish when their long term partners have asked to watch them masturbate. It’s a deeply personal experience for a woman. So it should come as no surprise that women are sheepish when they are asked to masturbate over the phone. Combine that with the fear already associated with phone sex and you’ve cast your lady in a sexual rendition of Fear Factor. But masturbation is required for good phone sex. If the goal is to have an orgasm and you’re saying naughty things miles away from each other, how else are you supposed to meet your goal?
Listening to a woman masturbate and describe it over the phone is another thing that elevates phone sex for you. Her pleasure drives your pleasure… making it even more important to show her the beauty of masturbation during phone sex. While you should never push a person into something they aren’t comfortable with, these tips below will show you how to get your woman feeling more comfortable and open to the idea. It can aid in pushing fear aside, which is getting in the way of her pleasure anyway.
Talk About It Before The Call
Talk about the phone sex before having it. Women enjoy being prepared. They don’t like to have ideas like this sprung on the, no matter how romantic impromptu phone sex seems to you. This gives your lady time to prepare herself for nude photos, set up her space to feel sexy, and get in the right mindset. You can also discuss the nature of phone sex if this is a brand new thing for you guys. That way, she’ll know beforehand that masturbation is part of the deal.
Buy her toys
Women usually take a little longer to reach an orgasm than men do. That’s why toys are helpful for women who have phone sex. It allows them to match your pace so that you two are more likely to orgasm at the same time. It’s also a good way to give her things to talk about, give you things to ask about, and keep her pleasure at the forefront of the phone sex.
Turn Her On
A woman isn’t going to want to masturbate for you if she isn’t turned on. While having phone sex, make sure to keep her pleasure and her needs in mind. It can be easy to be focused on yourself during the operation… but that won’t bode well for you in getting her to masturbate. Tell her all the naughty things you’d do to her and get her feeling extremely sexual. Also, don’t forget foreplay! That’s extremely important both on a call and in the bedroom with your lady!
Do it first
She might feel embarrassed to talk about her masturbation or make noises in front of you. A good way to show her that she is in a safe space to express her pleasure is to lead by example. Show her that you can be vulnerable by describing how you are masturbating. This will make her feel more comfortable in showing and describing to you.
Listen To Her Breathing
Ok, that sounds totally creepy. What I mean to say is pay attention to when her breathing gets heavier. That’s the time to ask her how she’s doing if she likes what you’re saying, or if she’s feeling good. You have those audible cues to help you hold her hand throughout the phone sex call. She is more likely to be responsive when he is feeling turned on or pleasured.
Tell Her, “I’m turned on when you’re turned on.”
Inform her that the sounds she’s making or things she’s saying are getting you off. Most women don’t understand that their noises and pleasure are actually what work to get you off as well. Part of the fear of phone sex is due to not knowing what’s going to get the other person off. Telling her that her pleasure is what works for you will show her that it’s ok to describe what she’s doing to herself.
All these tips are ways you can make a woman feel comfortable enough to begin masturbating on the phone with you. They are designed to help a woman get over her fear of the first time having phone sex. Once she’s jumped that hurdle it will be easier for her to do it again and again. Just make sure she feels comfortable and satisfied each time you two have phone sex!