A picture is worth a thousand words, so how do you paint that picture vividly enough for your phone sex partner to get off while only being able to use your words? Phone sex can get redundant, dull, awkward, impersonal….Phone sex is truly an art form in and of itself. Turning someone on with the noises you make and the words that you whisper is an exciting way to get intimate with your partner when you are unable to be there in person with them. Would it be preferable to be able to touch the real thing? Of course! But this is a great placeholder if you know how to work that mouth of yours. Below, you will find different ways you can up your phone sex game by making your sexy someone see exactly what you are talking about. We know that vocalizing your fantasies and dirty thoughts to another individual, no matter how close you two may be, can be very overwhelming and daunting. Just remember, God is in the details. 😉
Past
Once you are on the phone with your sexy someone and you are in the midst of beginning your phone sex time that you surely penciled in to your very busy schedule, decide where you want the conversation to go. Get descriptive. If you’re feeling a bit like reminiscing, paint the picture of that time you two couldn’t wait until you got home and had a little naughty fun in the back of that cab driving down the streets of the East Village. Remind them of that first time when you saw them naked and touched their body for the first time, felt their breath, heard their moans…Show them you desire them by letting them know that these memories….that they are the one that makes you want to do the nasty. You are horny for them. You’re not just horny.
Present
Another option would be to tell your phone sex guy/gal what you are doing in the moment. Tell them where your hands are, how good it feels, what you want to do next. Don’t shy away from making noises; breathing and moaning are two of the biggest turn ons during phone sex. It will allow them to better picture you and how much you are enjoying yourself. Don’t forgot to add them into the convo. Don’t forget to sprinkle in details of what you imagine your partner is doing to you.
Future
Phone sex for a future date. This one is tons of fun because you both get to come up with a narrative together! Think about a fantasy you both share or new toys you want to use and get to talking. Hopefully, when you two meet up again, you can turn your phone sex dreams into an in-person reality.
Ask Questions
Don’t forget to take some time for yourself. Remember, phone sex should be a two way street. Don’t be shy; if you’re wondering what they thought about the last time they masturbated, then ask them about it. If you want your partner to describe what they are doing to themselves right now, ask! If you want them to tell you about the most scandalous sexual experiences from their past, all you have to do is ask. Just remember to always respect your better half’s boundaries.
If You’re Ever At A Loss
Remember, if you ever get overwhelmed or nervous you can communicate that to your partner…or you can hit that keyboard and pull up some erotica. This is the perfect way to get ideas for those of us not ready to get too personal just yet. Take other’s fantasies and adapt them to suit your needs. You can even keep a list of sexy slogans nearby that you can pull out whenever you feel the need to. Sit back, relax, take a breath and don’t be ashamed to fulfill your need for some sexual pleasure.